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MWM, mid-50s, successful professional, NYC area, seeks MF for long-term e-mail penpal…and the possibility of meeting. I’ve been married a long time — and, unfortunately, there’s not much fun and excitement left in it. I’d love to compare notes with a woman in a similar situation … and, in particular, with an intelligent and sensitive woman who loves to craft thoughtful e-mails on a regular basis. Just to be clear: I am interested in exchanging “thoughtful” e-mails, not salacious ones. Learning about someone initially through text alone can be a wonderful experience. If everything were to click and we were both ready … then we might decide to meet. But first… let’s just write. About me: I’m a lawyer, Ivy educated, reasonable looks. I’m not pompous nor arrogant — and consider myself a good listener. I enjoy long conversations about anything and everything…the political, the personal and everything in between. Continue reading

Striking, sophisticated, successful freelance journalist/travel writer, currently living in Baltimore (when not in an airport!) looking for age-appropriate man who has the brains, wit, charm, passion, time, and energy to be a truly equal partner in a committed relationship. A valid passport wouldn’t hurt either! In return, you get a woman who has been known to turn more than a few heads, and is also smart, well-read, funny, magnetic (and obviously good with an adjective!)…who enjoys a night watching “March Madness” as much as “Giselle,” would love to root RF in person at Wimbledon, who loves books and bookstores (the few that are left), all things French, architecture/design, animals, my 17-year-old niece…and more…and who has navigated the ups and downs of 64 years with — I hope — grace, humor, and optimism. Woman seeking man, Washington, DC area. Photos and letters to carol@charm.net.

Slim, fetching Chicago editor, hooked on politics as a spectator sport, seeks to match wits with a crafty and devious gentleman who is any height over 5’5”, any age over 70, any ethnic background she can pronounce, and any religion not requiring human sacrifice. Humor a must, panache a plus. Woman seeking man, Chicago area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Natalie Attired as subject.

81 yr. old MWM living alone in southern Westchester. Gym fit and enjoying 2 mile walks and 12 mile bike rides. I’m a retired Ph.D. psychologist who enjoys being outdoors, gardening, music and stimulating conversation. Hoping to meet a fit, educated over age 65 female for fun and friendship. Man seeking woman, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username chazzy as subject.

I live a comfortable, financially secure life in a small East Bay town, practicing law on a reduced schedule that leaves time for reading, painting, listening to good music, exercising, playing golf, and spending time with a number of close friends. My marriage lost any romantic quality more than a decade ago and I miss the affection and intimacy essential to a full, rich life. I hope to meet a mature, independent woman in similar circumstances who is interested in creating a unique, committed, private 2-person universe apart from her own secure but emotionally unfulfilled existence. I am 67, 5’8”, fit, and healthy. Will send further details and photos once our correspondence shows we have something special in common. Man seeking woman, San Francisco area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username traddles as subject.

I’m a smart, funny, pretty woman, 59, psychotherapist, poet, fair blues/jazz guitar player. Currently in Brooklyn, N.Y.C. Love mountains, art, books (poetry and poetic fiction). Looking for best friend/lover to exchange books, camp, hike, ride bikes, peruse museums, walk strange and familiar streets, stroll parks, see world, be best audience at readings. Have one small dog who has three cats. If there were more rooms, there’d be more pets. You can’t have too many animals or two many trees. I watch TV sometimes: Dexter, Monk, Louie C.K., independent films, mostly, never developed a taste for reality TV but still watch news, usually Link/TV (Democracy Now, Al Jazeera). Or Jon Stewart. So far left you need binoculars to see me from the middle; no anarchist but I get the energy. Want a man, single, kind, who laughs, sticks around and says some smart, surprising things, likes my dog. And cats. Continue reading

My special lover and friend has these characteristics: smart and literate, playful, generally content, emotionally and logistically available, excellent communications skills, empathic, caring, good self care habits of food, exercise and moderation, sensual and sexually alive, socially aware and engaged, financially secure. I offer these attributes too. I am 54, but very youthful, active in the property I own and rent, split time between Central Florida (winter and spring) and NorEast and Northern CA for summer and fall. I have been married twice ( 7 years and 12 years) and learned plenty about myself…and importance in choosing a partner…with time and patience. Except I am not too patient. I am physically fit — not thin tho’, I don’t smoke, drink or do drugs. But have done all of that and am ok if my friends are moderate…. Continue reading

I am a suffolk county long island man looking for another long island man for casual get togethers. I am 65 yrs old, you can be any age between 55 & 65 yrs old. Man seeking man, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username grandpafly as subject.

59 y.o. Berkshires woman (Great Barrington) seeks a regular guy. I write on a somber spring evening. The buzz of spring is put to bed; the lights are low, my guests gone home (the dishes done). I lie down on the floor, surrounded by the jazz music I adore (and the doleful gaze of my 20 lb pooch). The floor feels good at the end of a day like this, a beautiful carpet cushions me as I do a few stretches and check in with my fatigue. The thought tonight is, “It’s going to take a miracle.” Here’s the scoop: I’m a Vassar grad, have a good sense of who I am, darn used to my way of doing things, but yet more interested in opening up the next chapter. It’s transition time, one hallmark of which is the good state of my biz and my affairs. I’m now ready to devote time to both me and you. Living in a fabulous town, and would love to lure you here, but I’m open to change. Continue reading

“I almost wish we were butterflies and liv’d but three summer days — three such days with you I could fill with more delight than fifty common years could ever contain.” ~John Keats

I’m spontaneous, intelligent, kind, witty interesting and interested, affectionate and nice (can be naughty, with encouragement from the right man.) Cultured, with a love of reading, theater, old and new movies, ballroom dancing, art and most music — lovers of the bagpipes and rap, please take note, this is not music, really. I enjoy intimacy, have a vivid imagination and an adventurous spirit. I lean leftward, politically but am willing to engage in reasonable discussion with those who disagree — for a while, anyway. I’m a happy woman: friends tell me that unless I’ve missed a meal, you should find me quite pleasant and thanks to the luck of good genes and valiant efforts to exercise, I’m fit and have a good, slender figure. A young 64. Continue reading

Woman, 59, with a great mind in a near-perfect body seeks tall, handsome man, 55-65, possibly for a long-term relationship. I am searching for a normal (or next to normal), athletic, really intelligent guy who loves literature and the arts. You should be unattached, enjoy fiction, travel and classical music. A strong critical intelligence is required. Please write to me and attach a recent photo. Woman seeking man, Toronto area and NYC. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Clarissa Dalloway as subject.

Seeking mature magic… Been in love three times, married one of them. But sometimes love has an expiration date and now as “happy trails” days approach, I would like to experience “it” again. Stolen glances, unspoken messages, secret smiles, unbridled anticipation, heart palpitations (the good kind) and gentle caresses. Former expatriate entrepreneur, I have spent more than half my life outside the US. Irreverent, wicked sense of humor, relentlessly anti-political correctness, sassy, spunky, and still possess a child-like curiosity about life. Passions include my exhausted Kindle, Italian Renaissance artists, classical French technique (the cooking kind) and bold, muscular red wines (men too). Still thrilled with full-time work and endure a daily trek to a purgatory called the gym to remain athletic and physically flexible. Continue reading

Grew up in New England but wound up in West Philly. I’ve been here for what seems like a lifetime but I just discovered when I checked my calculator that it’s only been 26 years. Yes, I’m bad at arithmetic but I’m pretty good at some other stuff. Currently a writer, editor and painter. An excellent listener and I’m looking for the same. Other than that and the ability to talk and laugh freely I don’t have many requests. Except that you be honest, drug-free and politically liberal (I know it’s wrong to discriminate but we’d both be sorry after the get-to-know-you stage). It would be fun to find somebody to hike and kayak and go to museums with while we converse deeply and thrillingly and provide each other with all kinds of yuks. I’m 59 and 5’ 9-3/4” but I’m not a height-ist; I’ve dated men both with and without stature. My photo is attached because I heard that guys like pictures and won’t answer an ad without one. Woman seeking man. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username LuckyEva as subject.

France-based woman, 48, interests: art, books, history, museums, exhibitions, classical music, social exchange. Loves serenity, patience, calm, simplicity, peaceful, sense of humor, critical mind. Seeks first a democrate atypical correspondent well-educated gentleman profile cerebral New-Yorker rather than sportsman 52/57, or around, and hopes to live together in the future. I would consider moving. Woman seeking man. Email your reply to parisisa02@gmail.com.

Healthy 56 year old progressive pragmatic male with an array of interests including travel, reading, writing, politics/public affairs, various genres of music and propensity for simple living seeks like-minded female partner from late twenties to early fifties who shares similar interests or perspectives. For fitness, I run and adhere to a healthy diet. Like other physical/outdoor activities as well and desire to share those with a partner. Low TV consumption except for PBS and some athletics. Prefer NPR or community radio. 5’7″, 150 lbs., br/br. I try to maintain balance in diet, lifestyle, low alcohol intake, and be politically active/engaged. Primary career has been in business field, but educational services in recent years. If you like to engage in intellectually curious pursuits at times and simpler ones at others, believe that a relationship can be mutually enriching and that sharing and growing together on the journey is more rewarding than doing it alone, I welcome the opportunity to hear from you. Man seeking woman. Reply to freethinker56@verizon.net.

Guess I am just looking for that girl on her tippy toes. “What does that mean?” she said. Read on. It will become crystal clear …. Mid-March in NYC. Spring is around the corner. The weather is changing — even if we did have a bit of snow last week. But still spring is in the air. Need evidence? That March Madness of NCAA hoops begins next week. Baseball begins shortly (Yankee fan). The homestretch of the NY Rangers. And the spring street fairs of NYC in April and May. Nothing beats a sausage and peppers hero from a cart at a street fair in the city! But all these things are much better experienced with someone else. Might that be you? Do you feel the same way? Perhaps this outlet can solve our mutual dilemma. Given that, I decided to toss my hat into cyberspace and see what it kicks back. You are there reading this post as I decided to post. Random? You tell me … Continue reading

SWF, 24, classic, elegant, seeks her gentlemanly gentleman. (Though I have to admit, I do look more like the lovely Doris Day, with blue eyes, long golden-blonde mane, radiant mega-watt smile, rosy cheeks, eternally cheerful attitude and all.) I’m young, internationally cosmopolitan, multilingual. Quite the wizard around the house and a celebrated cook. Probably better educated than you. My rich, velvety voice with an indelible hint of an accent will endlessly tantalize you. I enjoy summers in Maine, lazy Sundays brunch and jazz standards, going for a walk in Central Park on your arm! You’ll have to be a manly man of grace and style. Someone who enjoys his aged scotch and rare steak. No neurotic granola hipster-boys need apply. Woman seeking man. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username aveline as subject.

Someone to share wisdoms with …
Today brute strength bears down on everyone
Ancient Egyptian poetry
Beautiful brainiac, former hippie, politically radical iconoclast, religion All Things Divine, European & American citizen, seeks unique friends.
Woman, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Liberty as subject.

I characterize myself as more becoming than being. 59, 6’2″, good health (bit of a gym rat, swim every other day, bike getting repaired), resident of Brooklyn Heights. Looking for a lasting love — one who’ll have my back as much as I have hers. One who recognizes that any relationship has conflict -– how a couple manage it defines a vibrant, growing relationship. Would like to hold her hand, walking elegantly, now as well in our dotage. Would like to prepare her tea as a nightcap as we read then hold each other all night. Would like us to share life’s ups and downs. Interests and pastimes? Besides reading what everyone else reads on this site, histories, biographies, literature (80% non-fiction, 20% fiction). Music: Ravel, Debussy, Britten, Rimsky-Korsakov, Coltrane, Steely Dan, Pearl Jam, operas, BBC3 radio. Prefer movies to shows, have membership to Film Forum. Met Museum member, will also find me at MOMA, Morgan Library, the Frick, and the Whitney. Continue reading

I am 66 years old but sometimes I feel like I’m 17 and sometimes I feel like I’m 90. My typical day consists of trying to unbend the tight places (literally in my mind and body), writing down my dreams from the previous night, writing thoughts, events and feelings in a journal. I spend time in meditation, prayer, walking and playing with my fabulous dog, getting the house ready for patients to arrive. I try to help a few people, eat food that is good for me, listen to Buddhist lectures, do some errands, call my daughter and chat about our family, read a little of this and that, watch TV (not much unless it’s a good movie or TV special…), feel grateful for the day and hope I get another one as good, tomorrow. I am a psychotherapist and recently realized that I probably should have married someone in this field, preferably an analyst, but I didn’t and I have three marriages and three divorces to look back on and consider. Continue reading